Ever since I met my step kids one thing that has grated me no end is the way they don’t say please or thank you, my kids might have mood swings and god knows what but they are always polite and thankful.
If ever they ask for anything from a drink to their tablets it’s just ‘can I ‘ave’ (they come from Essex so this is acceptable!), their dad has tried to install polite behaviour but only having them twice a month it all goes out the window (see my shoelaces blog for that saga).
Every time they come down (Florence isn’t as bad) I always swear that I will not treat them but I did the same today, cinema tickets for tomorrow, clothes and a drink, neither said thank you for any of it, I don’t expect them to get on their knees and flag me down saying ‘thank you Vera’ but a simple nod to just acknowledge I’ve done something would be nice.
Upshot is, after her dad telling her too, Florence said thank you but Gerald after throwing a tantrum because I wouldn’t give into him for his demands of a drink that he wanted just because his sister had that one bit was quite happy with the choice beforehand and then him sulking so bad she swapped with him and I swapped it back (poor girl always gets the short end of the deal but I wasn’t having any of the Gerald show today), didn’t say thank you for any of it, so now I’ve put the tickets for sale and he is going to learn a massive lesson that behaving the way he did today doesn’t bring him treats (to be honest Florence wasn’t bothered about going), some could call it harsh but until he learns to be grateful the little sod can wait for things.
We took him to Southend a few months back and it seems the more you give him the worst his behaviour is, but he can throw all the Gerald’s he wants to, this step mama is not treating him until he learns a little bit of respect and gratitude and realises we work hard, this month has been the first month that we had a good income as I am working and we can afford to not worry as much, which has been nice but I refuse to go and buy him an ice cream from mcdonalds anymore, while he just sits there and thinks everything comes for free.
I asked him if he ever says thank you to his mum and he said no, that’s up to her if she doesn’t enforce it but while he is with me and his dad you will be grateful for all the little extras that we do for him, after all it could go back to how it was, him walking EVERYWHERE, only eating the same food every time they came (he would like that though) and not getting things like ice cream etc.
He is a lovely kid, very loving and when he wants to he is happy to help, he just always lets himself down with his gratitude, even round his grandparents house he just asks for this and that, never a please, it’s just manners!