When I split with George two and a half years ago all I wanted was to get away but through his sheer determination for the kids to be as little disrupted as possible, we made it work, we had the ‘weirdest’ break up that anyone probably had ever seen but I wouldn’t change it for the world, of course I would have loved my family to stay together but when two people just aren’t in love anymore, why be miserable and unhappy when you can have what we have now?.
It hasn’t been easy I can tell you getting to this point… see photo of ex husband and future husband…
I won’t lie, it’s been hard going but this weekend it was proof that a family that was once whole, can function divided yet together at the same time, only last Friday when George, Jim and I were hanging out waiting for the boys to get of their bus, a old work friend came along and couldn’t hide her bemusement that both my ex and my future were sitting on a bench, chatting away like old mates while I was sat in the middle of them, she said as long as we were happy that’s the main thing and yes we are, you see I may have fallen out of love with George and I may not see him like I used to (ok I’ll put it blunt…I don’t fancy him anymore) we don’t remain friends just for the boys, we remain friends because that’s what we were before, friends, this year I will have known him 27 years, you can’t throw that longer friendship away just because you don’t love each other anymore.
We were due down to Kent last weekend but after what happened to our beautiful friend, we came down early, Jim and I met George at the pub Thursday and played rock and roll bingo, we hung out most of Friday because we were sorting Becky’s book out etc and Friday evening we were all together for Becky’s minstrel send off (which was a drunken mess but she would have loved it) and Sunday we all got together for little Jims birthday with George’s lovely girlfriend, at no stage did or feel weird or it shouldn’t be like it, it felt normal (although there was odd glances by my ex mother in law at how friendly Jim and George were).
As a result the children are happy, they have their parents back and not arguing, we may have new partners and I may live miles away but they have two parents that aren’t at war anymore, they have two parents that are friends and I wouldn’t have it any other way.